Marriage

Welcome to Mary, Mother of the Church Parish. I would like to take this opportunity to congratulate you on your engagement and thank you for considering having your marriage ceremony at our parish. We have two beautiful churches to choose from and both unique in history and architecture: St Mary Church, 45 Crosswicks St., Bordentown and Holy Assumption Church, 1290 Hornberger Ave., Roebling. I would invite you to spend some time in prayer in both and allow God to speak to your heart to decide which one suits you best.

What Should We Do to Plan Our Wedding?

  • Begin planning no later than 12 months before your wedding date

  • Call Parish Office (609-298-0261) to check availability of Church before booking venue

  • Speak with the Marriage Coordinator marriage@mmotcp.org who will ask some basic questions to determine the best move forward.

  • Make appointment to meet with the Pastor.

  • Deacon Gary Richardson will contact you to begin preparations for planning your wedding. He will talk you through the choices for Marriage Preparation Workshops and FOCCUS (Facilitating Open Couple Communication, Understanding and Study).

FIRST MEETING WITH DEACON/PRIEST

  • An opportunity to introduce ourselves and build a relationship

  • Decide on dates and times for Marriage Preparation Workshop and FOCCUS work book

SECOND MEETING WITH DEACON/PRIEST

  • Discuss Marriage Preparation Workshop and FOCCUS

  • Begin planning wedding liturgy

  • Church Documents that both of you will need:

    • Baptism Certificate: issued 6 months prior to date of wedding

    • Confirmation Certificate

    • ‘Letter of Freedom’ if not from this parish, this letter is obtained from your registered parish

    • Previously Married: An Annulment Decree or Death Certificate of former spouse. This is important to have with you so to confirm date of wedding and it helps the Deacon determine the time needed for planning your wedding

    • Different Christian Denomination: Certificate of Baptism

    • Additional documents may be needed; Deacon will advise

  • One month prior to wedding contact City Clerk in the municipality where you reside to apply for Marriage License: fee will apply, and witnesses may be required. If you live out of state, you will need to apply for the civil marriage license in Bordentown City.

MUSIC

Please contact our Music Coordinator, Alfonso Gonzales (609-222-2335), regarding your liturgical music choices. If you are having your own musicians/cantor all music choices must be approved by our Music Coordinator.

Music/Cantors fees or Admin fees are to be discussed with the Music Coordinator

PHOTOGRAPHY

Videos and photographs are allowed during the wedding, but please consult with the celebrant for any particular needs or requests.

LIVE VIDEO STREAMING

We have live stream in St Mary Church, Bordentown. Click here for live stream.

OTHER THINGS TO CONSIDER

  • No rice, birdseed, flower petals or confetti inside or outside church or church grounds.

  • Select the florist of your choice. Decorations must keep with the nature of the sacrament and may be limited due to the liturgical season.

  • No aisle runners or tape may be used to secure decorations, please use elastic bands.

VALIDATION OF A CIVIL CEREMONY

  • Civil marriage license issued at wedding

  • Catholics: copies of sacraments received

  • Other Christian Denominations/Faiths: Deacon/Priest will advise

  • Deacon/Priest will assist with all Diocesan, parish and State/Township requirements

If you have any questions please do not hesitate to contact the Parish Office and speak with the Wedding Coordinator or the Pastor and we will do all in our power to assist you in any way we can.

May God bless you and guide you both in a long and happy life together

Fr Martin O’ Reilly

Pastor